Someone for whom the individual for one reason or another becomes interested in or feels great sympathy for may be a reunion from a previous incarnation. Many stories are about the importance of the look. People who see each other from another life may not be able to recognize each other by appearance, while the eyes are the same. Anyone who attends so-called regression therapy may be asked when, during a session, he or she returns to a previous life and meets someone there: Do not meet the gaze. Meeting face-to-face can give you a strong certainty that it's not the first time you've met that person:
There's a difference when you look in living life in the eye, than when you look at the photo. I had seen him in a photo. And I just said… Hey, Sune, I think I feel… Because he's into this, too. I feel like we've known each other before, I said. Yes, he said. So just… Yes /laugh/ Great fun. And then it was just that.
In the material there are many stories of absolute recognition. This unreserved openness is also idealised. How can this be understood psychologically? Perhaps as a difficulty to endure uncertainty and that a solution then offers to simply skip the initial stage. Instead of having to get to know the other first, the other is perceived as a reunion from a previous existence. This is similar to what Farias and Lalljee (2006, referenced in Farias &granqvist, 2007, p. 126) demonstrated in his experiment where the test subject had to take a position on a made-up story, whether a person he met, for example, in the store who felt very familiar, and what this could then be due to. Perhaps this can be likened to a symbiotic hope.
It is probably possible, for example, to get ideas based on connection theory about what such unreserved openness is based on, but possibly this can also be understood from the new-age thought system itself. That the worldview actually sanctions these kinds of interpretations and thus offers paths to get to the other who is less arduous. As for the importance of the eyes, it is possible to associate with the "mother's gaze", that is, an experience with roots far back in the individual's life.