What a “landscape” this is! And I’m pretty much on my guard here.
That anyone who struggles with alcohol addiction, and wants to be free, suspects that he or she can get the best help from someone who has been through such things, I understand that. Or anyone who has dropped out of Jehovah’s Witnesses, for example, wants to meet someone who has real understanding and insight into what it’s like to grow up like that, it feels wise (and brave)… But that anyone who has a Christian faith wants to meet a Christian interlocutor, the Muslim a Muslim, a New Age Spirituality believer, etc?
To take the last category, which is the part of this landscape that I myself know best… I have heard this so many times over the years. That you feel the need to talk to someone about difficulties in life, even “go to therapy”, but then it should absolutely be a person who you know shares your worldview, (i.e. reincarnation, karma, that we are on the way to becoming perfect Christ figures, that many troubles have their roots in past lives, etc)… And I’ve always thought it sounds a little weird, conditional… “Guarded,” right? Like wanting a guarantee that certain issues will never risk getting on the table. And if they do what you should still have a tacit consensus on how everything is connected, how life works.
While it can of course be a healthy self-preservation drive too, that you don’t want to risk being knocked down into the shoes by someone who hates all that spirituality is called, and unreflectively will see this as the root of everyone’s problem…
And the whole scale in between… Yes, there is much to be said about this.