Becoming a parent is not necessary, although this experience is described as a positive experience by the respondents who are. A woman had her first child in her forties and tells me that she then "called" on her child: "Well, yes, but if you want to come, you are welcome now, I can do this now." One respondent tells us that in a previous life her daughter was the respondent's mother, a woman with special gifts. During the gravitity, this gave the respondent strength and now it makes her feel more secure in her mother's role:
Maybe I see her as a little more strong now. She's a little kid. Small children are fragile, like. But I think this intuition that I had, that, oh, she's a strong soul, it's okay, it's probably true. I have a little more meat on my legs […] She's learning like… everything. She's interested in stuff. The material world. [Me: But it doesn't come between you, in any way, that you're thinking… That's my mom?] No, that's it. do it. Let's see. No, the only time I felt this way, wow, it's when she does this little massage on my back like this. God, what a healer she is. I recognize this.
It is possible to live a rich life without children. Many are never given the opportunity or connect with a longing when it is too late. Of course, it can also be a well-considered decision. What can be problematized, however, is if the attitude of not wanting to become a parent is motivated by or downplayed based on the new worldview. It is obvious how the individual could come to such a conclusion on the grounds that parenthood had been accomplished in previous lives or that he or she had become too developed spiritually to engage in such things for longer. Something that is then argued for with reference to ideas within the thought system and from a self-image that is maintained using the same thought system.